This is not a book that explains what BDSM is, this is a book that explains what BDSM is all about. This is a book for people who are considering stepping into real time BDSM, and it is also a book for people who have been involved in the community for a while. This book treats the world of BDSM as a culture unto itself and goes a long way to explaining the expectations, rules, and words that are common to this culture. This book does not tell you how to use any implements (floggers, canes, etc), but it does explain why in the world you’d want to use such implements. This is a must-have resource book for your kink library.

BDSM Mastery - Basics: your guide to play, parties, and scene protocols

Rubel Ph.D., Robert J.

Fairfield, M. Jen

Education & Teaching

Red Eight Ball Press

About this book: A servant serves Master’s needs or is fired;A slave serves Master’s wants or is released.However, Master’s wants must not trump slave’s needs,Even when playing by RACK standards.slave is in service to Master;However, Master is in service to the relationship.Welcome to the complex and elegantWorld of Master/slave relations.This is a revised and substantially expanded version of my prior book, Master/slave Relations: Handbook of theory and practice. Even if you’ve read that one, this is substantially different. This is a book both for people starting out in M/s and also for people who have been involved for a few years. The second book in this series, Master/slave Mastery: Refining the Fire – ideas that matter is intended for those who have been involved with the Master/slave world for 5+ years. Together, these books are core readings for anyone interested in living in a structured, authority-imbalanced relationship.

Master/slave Mastery: Updated handbook of concepts, approaches, and practices

Reference

Writing, Research & Publishing Guides

This is the second book in the BDSM Mastery series. While the first book oriented readers to play, parties, and scene protocols, this book addresses Dominant/submissive relationships. What, you might ask, are "BDSM Relationships?" These are "adventuresome" relationships. Relationships that are not exactly like vanilla relationships. BDSM relationships differ in two specific ways from your typical vanilla relationship: first, they usually involve a power-imbalanced structure (one person is clearly in charge and the other person is clearly following); second, the kind of sex that adventuresome folks practice is, well, not vanilla. I wrote this book to help you better to understand the power dynamics that get involved with what are called power-imbalanced relationships (usually referred to as Dominant/submissive or D/s relationships).

BDSM Mastery-Relationships:: a guide for creating mindful relationships for Dominants and submissives

Parenting & Relationships

BDSM

Every structured relationship is slightly different. For some, it works just fine; for others, not so well.This is an M/s Advanced book. It's for people with very strong core values who have been doing M/s for 5+ years—or been heavily involved in D/s for that long. This is for people who know a lot and are open to thinking about what they know in a different way. This is a "content-heavy" book. If you have fewer than about 5 years of experience, you’re likely to be intellectually intimidated. Readers should thoroughly understand the differences between a D/s culture and an M/s culture. You’ll want to be able to take notes. This is a book of ideas and suggestions that have evolved from 10+ years of personal experience and study concerning Master/salve relationships. This “advanced” book is the second in the Master/slave Mastery series. It addresses issues/situations common to most long-term structured relationships. There is no beginner-level material in this book.In this book you will find two chapters on mastery: one on Master’s mastery and on slave’s mastery. An extensive chapter on nuts-and-bolts issues such as motivators, leadership, control, and punishment. Finally, there is a chapter titled “Little bits of ideas” that enables me to address difficult topics, such as how you interact with yourself and with others, how “service” can be expressed, and specialized communication challenges.

Master/slave Mastery--Advanced: Rekindling the fire, ideas that matter.

Red 8-Ball Press

Many of our adult behaviors are largely invisible to us because they’re accepted and supported by our culture. It doesn’t occur to us to question our own (or our partner’s) basic assumptions about who we are and how we interact in the world. It’s difficult to step aside from yourself and explore why you think as you do. The more you understand how you (and those with whom you're speaking) take in information, the easier the communication becomes. This book is intended to help you decipher what others are saying and also to help you realize why some of your messages are not being heard the way you intended them.

Is THAT What they Meant?: A book of practical communication insights

Self-Help

Relationships

Many get tripped up over the very concept of written protocols. We’ve met many Masters who believe that writing out the way they want things done removes creativity from the relationship.  That’s not the way we see it.  In our experience, a protocol manual is much more than documenting rules of service. Writing a protocol manual helps you examine and refine your relationship and your relationship management style. The very process of creating a manual such as this reveals the kinds of service Master really wants from the slave and the kinds of service the slave can actually deliver. In that light, writing a protocol manual is an exercise in clarifying the intent of your relationship.  Biased as we are, we assert that protocols help to reprogram both the Master’s and the slave’s brains. They help you create habits. Protocols don’t merely define how you look on the outside, protocols help shape how you think on the inside. Since protocols specify the way Master wants this particular slave to do things, and since people are different from one another, protocol manuals are person-specific.

Master/slave Mastery--Protocols:: Focusing the intent of your relationship

Etiquette

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