In his extraordinary new book, Terrence Real, distinguished therapist and bestselling author, presents a long overdue message that women need to hear: You aren’t crazy–you’re right! Women have changed in the last twenty-five years–they have become powerful, independent, self-confident, and happy. Yet many men remain irresponsible and emotionally detached. They don’t know how to respond to frustrated partners who just want their mates to show up and grow up. Enter the good news: In this revolutionary book, Real shows women how to master the new rules of twenty-first-century marriage by offering them a set of effective tools with which they can create the truly intimate relationship that they desire and deserve. He identifies five non-starters to avoid and shares practical strategies for bringing honesty, passion, and joy back to even the most difficult relationship. Using his experience helping thousands of couples shift from despair to profound emotional closeness, Real guides you through the process of relationship repair with exercises that you can do alone or with your partner. With this program you’ll discover how to - identify and articulate your wants and needs - listen well and respond generously - set limits, and stand up for yourself - embrace and appreciate what you have - know when to seek outside help The New Rules of Marriage will introduce you to a radically new kind of relationship, one based on the idea that every woman has the power to transform her marriage, while men, given the right support, have it in them to rise to the occasion. We have never wanted so much from our relationships as we do today. More than any other generation, we yearn for our mates to be lifelong friends and lovers. The New Rules of Marriage shows us how to fulfill this courageous and uncompromising new vision.

The New Rules of Marriage: What You Need to Know to Make Love Work

Self-Help

Real, Terrence

Relationships

Ballantine Books

Stop working on yourself as an individual and start working on your relationship as a couple, with the help of therenowned family therapist andbestselling author of The New Rules of Marriage "A beautiful and important book, particularly for the moment we are in."-BRUCE SPRINGSTEEN, from the foreword At a time when toxic individualism is rending our society at every level, bestselling author and renowned marriage counselor Terrence Real sees how it poisons our most intimate relationships in his therapy practice where he works with couples on the brink of disaster. The good news- warmer, closer, more passionate relationships are possible if you have the right tools. Recent neurobiology shows that the mind exists in a social context, and couples co-regulate one another's nervous systems. But it's hard to get that delicate dance right if you, like so many people, grew up without adequate emotional support. The techniques you developed to survive a dysfunctional family as a kid-the very skills that probably bring you success in your career-will torch your personal relationships. Us is a groundbreaking guide to a new science-backed skillset-one that will allow you to get past your kneejerk reactions and tap into your wiser, more collaborative self. With a novelist's flair, Real shares the stories of real couples whose relationships have been saved by these skills and pans out to the cultural landscape that reinforce our dysfunction. If you and your partner are backed into separate corners of "you" and "me," this book will show the way back to "us." With Us, your real relationship can begin.

Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship (Goop Press)

Rodale Books

I Don't Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression

Health, Fitness & Dieting

Psychology & Counseling

Scribner

A psychotherapist provides a thought-provoking study of the hidden epidemic of male depression, drawing on case studies and his own personal experiences to examine the causes of the ailment and how men can heal themselves, repair relationships, and break the chain of depression. 75,000 first printing. Tour.

Parenting & Relationships

A revolutionary and hopeful look at depression as a silent epidemic in men that manifests as workaholism, alcoholism, rage, difficulty with intimacy, and abusive behavior by the cofounder of Harvard’s Gender Research Project. Twenty years of experience treating men and their families has convinced psychotherapist Terrence Real that depression is a silent epidemic in men—that men hide their condition from family, friends, and themselves to avoid the stigma of depression’s “un-manliness.” Problems that we think of as typically male—difficulty with intimacy, workaholism, alcoholism, abusive behavior, and rage—are really attempts to escape depression. And these escape attempts only hurt the people men love and pass their condition on to their children. This groundbreaking book is the “pathway out of darkness” that these men and their families seek. Real reveals how men can unearth their pain, heal themselves, restore relationships, and break the legacy of abuse. He mixes penetrating analysis with compelling tales of his patients and even his own experiences with depression as the son of a violent, depressed father and the father of two young sons.

Taking a close-up look at gender roles and conditioning, the best-selling author of I Don't Want to Talk About It explores the current status of intimate relations between men and women and introduces five Core Relationship Skills that couples can use to develop true intimacy. 100,000 first printing.

How Can I Get Through to You?: Closing the Intimacy Gap Between Men and Women

Mental Health

"What happened to the passion we started with? Why aren't we as close as we used to be?"
 PROBLEM: If you are a woman who is unfulfilled in your marriage...if you feel unheard or overburdened...if you quietly live in a state of slow-burn resentment...
 PROBLEM: If you are a man unhappy that your partner seems so unhappy with you...if you feel bewildered, unappreciated, or betrayed... 
 This book offers a solution 
 Bestselling author and nationally renowned therapist Terrence Real unearths the causes of communication blocks between men and women in this groundbreaking work. Relationships are in trouble; the demand for intimacy today must be met with new skills, and Real -- drawing on his pioneering work on male depression -- gives both men and women those skills, empowering women and connecting men, radically reversing the attitudes and emotional stumbling blocks of the patriarchal culture in which we were raised. Filled with powerful stories of the couples Real treats, no other relationship book is as straight talking or compelling in its innovative approach to healing wounds and reconnecting partners with a new strength and understanding.

How Can I Get Through to You? Closing the Intimacy Gap Between Men and Women

Simon&Schuster

I Don't Want to Talk About It

Newleaf

When you're desperately trying to communicate with your partner and you can't, it's easy to start seeing your whole relationship unravel. It has been more than forty years since women across the western world began to realise their equality and recover a sense of integrity. Now empowered, they insist on levels of relational skills from their spouses which men have never understood or been prepared to deliver. Women complain about how hard it is to get men to communicate, resulting in them feeling shut out and men feeling misunderstood. Society also exerts its own traditional pressures and expectations on each gender. The consequence has been devastating for both men and women, leading to what Real calls a 'toxic masculinity' that can cause men to ravage partnerships through a legacy of drinking, womanising, depression, fury, rage and violence. 'How Can I Get Through to You?' shows that it is possible to overcome the most impenetrable conditioning to emerge into deeply rewarding relationships. It will find an eager readership among both men and women who are concerned about their ability to relate to one another and who are prepared to do something about it. Other books by Terrence Real I Don't Want to Talk About It.

How Can I Get Through to You? : Reconnecting Men and Women

In his extraordinary new audiobook, Terrence Real, distinguished therapist and bestselling author, presents a long overdue message that women need to hear: You aren’t crazy–you’re right!  Women have changed in the last twenty-five years–they have become powerful, independent, self-confident, and happy. Yet many men remain irresponsible and emotionally detached. They don’t know how to respond to frustrated partners who just want their mates to show up and grow up. Enter the good news: In this revolutionary audiobook, Real offers women a set of effective tools with which they can create the truly intimate relationship that they desire and deserve. He guides you through the process of relationship repair with exercises that you can do alone or with your partner. We have never wanted so much from our relationships as we do today. More than any other generation, we yearn for our mates to be lifelong friends and lovers. The New Rules of Marriage shows us how to fulfill this courageous and uncompromising new vision.

Random House Audio |

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The New Rules of Marriage: What You Need to Know to Make Love Work

Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship (Goop Press)

I Don't Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression

I Don't Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression

I Don't Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression

How Can I Get Through to You?: Closing the Intimacy Gap Between Men and Women

How Can I Get Through to You? Closing the Intimacy Gap Between Men and Women

I Don't Want to Talk About It

How Can I Get Through to You? : Reconnecting Men and Women

The New Rules of Marriage: What You Need to Know to Make Love Work