"Maybe my wife is right: I'm not open enough. 
I feel compassion and concern for her, but I keep hearing that I just don't communicate well. It's as though we are speaking different languages." —Jerry, an attorney "Maybe I'm just too ambitious. Other people seem to be more content with less; I seem to be driven. And my family is telling me that they miss me." —Lois, a marketing executive. "I'm lonely in this marriage." —Max, a sales rep If any, or all, of these laments sound uncomfortably familiar, then your relationship probably suffers from what psychologist Wayne Sotile and marriage counselor Mary Sotile call "Supercouple Syndrome." A leading source of burnout, marital discord, and divorce, this malady is an all-too-common consequence of the '90s pursuit of the Big Life. It is the natural outgrowth of people's unrealistic determination to do everything right—to juggle marriage, family, and career, and be all things to all people. Now, in this groundbreaking book, the Sotiles show you and your partner how to beat stress, rekindle your passion for one another, and transform your relationship into the haven it was meant to be. Drawing upon their nearly two decades of experience helping couples improve their relationships, the Sotiles explore the reasons why so many people nowadays get caught in the supercouple trap. Using real-life case studies, they show how many of the strategies people develop to be successful at work—staying in control, striving for perfection, maintaining a competitive edge—can wreak havoc on personal relationships. They also provide harrowing examples of how people who let their relationships take a backseat to their careers for too long usually wind up drained, burnt out, and even downsized. Most importantly, this sanity-saving book arms you with action steps for revitalizing your relationship. Wayne and Mary outline their BEating Stress Together (BEST) program, a simple, effective program that has been used by more than 5,000 couples to transform their relationships from sources of stress into sources of empowerment. Don't sacrifice your happiness in pursuit of the good life. Let Supercouple Syndrome show you how to make your relationship work for you. "Eloquently describes the curse of the modern-day 'supercouple'—striving to survive and thrive in a crazy world. Insightful and refreshing."—Lori Heyman Gordon, Ph.D. Founder of PAIRS (Practical Applications of Intimate Relationship Skills) Author of Love Knots, Passage to Intimacy, and If You Really Loved Me Two Jobs, two Kids, too Much? You put 100% of yourself into everything you do, so why can't you seem to find balance in your life? You know what your responsibilities are and wouldn't think of shirking them, so how come nobody seems to appreciate you? You love your family and do all you can to provide for them, so why do your kids seem so remote? . . . And, can you remember the last time you made love to your partner? Marriage should be one of life's great joys, not a source of stress and unhappiness. It should be a safe haven where you can unwind and be your true self with the one who knows you best. It should be a source of strength, and love, and yes, fun. By following the BEating Stress Together (BEST) program outlined in this book, your marriage can be all those good things, and more. Developed by psychologist Wayne Sotile and marriage counselor Mary Sotile and used to successfully treat more than 5,000 ailing relationships, the BEST program will help you beat stress and rekindle the passion in your relationship. Filled with lively true stories and easy-to-do exercises, Supercouple Syndrome is a much-needed road map for today's stressed-out supercouples.

Supercouple Syndrome: How Overworked Couples Can Beat Stress Together

Self-Help

Sotile, Wayne M.

Sotile, Mary O.

Relationships

John Wiley&Sons, Inc.

Help and hope for today’s overworked, stressed-out couples 
Is your day-to-day routine wreaking havoc on your relationship? Are you trying to be all things to all people–and in reality creating more tension and distance between you and your partner? In this engaging, sanity-saving book, psychologist Wayne Sotile and marriage counselor Mary Sotile show couples how to lower stress levels and revitalize their relationships. Their simple, effective program for Beating Stress Together (BEST), used by more than 5,000 couples, arms you with action steps for reducing anxiety, renewing passion, and restoring balance. Filled with lively true stories and easy-to-do exercises, Beat Stress Together will help you successfully nurture a happier, healthier, and more rewarding life. " . . . the book offers good ideas for balancing breadwinning and nesting needs."–The Wall Street Journal "This book gives couples ideas of how to [take] their lives down one notch and enjoy each other and the families that they have created. A great way to remind us [of] what really are the important things in life."–Motherhood

Beat Stress Together

Noted marriage counselors look at the problems facing today's high-powered, high-pressured couples, whose "ready, set, go" lifestyles require delicate balancing acts. This inspiring book shows today's stressed-out supercouples--men and women juggling dual careers, family obligations, and their marriages--how to become couples who can have it all while supporting each other and creating balance in their hectic lives.

Politics & Social Sciences

Philosophy

Dove Entertainment Inc

Presents practical strategies for teaching patients to cope with the emotional stress of cardiac and pulmonary disease, describing a model using behavioral medicine and body/mind techniques to enhance quality of life and physical recovery. Case studies and sample scripts show health professionals without specialized training in mental health how to help patients learn to control stress, relax, address marital and family issues, and control negative thinking patterns. Annotation c. by Book News, Inc., Portland, Or.

Psychosocial Interventions for Cardiopulmonary Patients: A Guide for Health Professionals

Health, Fitness & Dieting

Mental Health

Human Kinetics

Is your day-to-day routine wreaking havoc on your relationship? Are you trying to be all things to all people - and in reality creating more tension and distance between you and your partner? In this engaging, sanity-saving book, psychologist Wayne Sotile and marriage counselor Mary Sotile shows couples how to lower stress levels and revitalize their relationships. Their simple, effective program for BEating Stress Together (BEST), used by more than 5,000 couples, arms you with action steps for reducing anxiety, renewing passion, and restoring balance.

Marriage Skills for Busy Couples: How to Avoid Supercouple Syndrome

Author]

What makes a good marriage when one or both spouses are physicians? Physicians experience stress, depression, substance abuse, obsessive-compulsiveness, and workaholism and commit suicide more often than the general population. In addition, the spouse of a physician can become trapped in a self-focused style of coping that ruins the marriage. But all is not dismal! The Medical Marriage sheds light on the secrets of the medical couples who manage to avoid or escape a bad marriage. Over the past sixteen years, Wayne and Mary Sotile have collectively spent more than 60,000 hours counseling high-powered couples, including hundreds of physicians. Their book offers provocative answers to a number of questions: Why is the traditional medical marriage quickly becoming a thing of the past? Why are female physicians 40 percent more prone to divorce than their male colleagues? Are physicians' careers being hurt or helped by their efforts to better balance their professional and personal lives? The Medical Marriage is the first book to address the intimate lives of medical couples. Here doctors and their spouses will learn about the stages of the medical couple's journey; the issues that make money a source of stress in the medical marriage; eight type of medical marriages - their strengths and weaknesses; nine characteristics of highly successful medical couples; the Intimacy Formula for a high-passion medical marriage; and six keys for negotiating differences without damaging the relationship. Written with the insights of professional marriage therapists and the compassion and empathy of a couple who themselves are juggling the roles of professionals, parents, and passionate partners, The Medical Marriage is destined to become the classic self-help guide for couples facing the challenges that fill both medicine and marriage in contemporary times.

The Medical Marriage: A Couple's Survival Guide

Birch Lane Pr

The Medical Marriage helps physicians families take a proactive approach to making medical marriage and family relationships work successfully. It identifies and explains the key issues, potential difficulties, and tensions that can characterize marriages and family relationships in which one or both partners are physicians. The book offers self-as sessment tools and case narratives to help readers indentify traits that are common to physician families and that can cause strain and tension in a marriage.

The Medical Marriage: Sustaining Healthy Relationships for Physicians and Their Families

Amer Medical Assn

This will be a book filled with common-sense advice about how to enhance physician well-being and stress resilience. The authors have developed a model for stress-hardiness they call Effective Emotional Management, or EEM. This model is an amalgam of key points about stress resilience gleaned from research and from clinical experience. EEM moves beyond traditional approaches in that it incorporates strategies for identifying and managing two essential components of stress management” personality-based coping patterns and relationship dynamics. The Resilient Physician will explain how managing emotions is key to personal stress-resilience and to building successful organizations. It will teach physicians how to deal with others effectively and flexibly. And it will teach physicians how to manage their own stress reactions and how to respond to others when they are stressed.

The Resilient Physician: Effective Emotional Management for Doctors and Their Medical Organizations

Stress Management

Few professions are as physically and emotionally challenging as the practice of medicine.From the rigors of medical school to the high stakes, rapidly changing, multi-tasking reality of practice, physicians face unbelievable stress for years on end. It s no surprise that half of all physicians face burnout, work-home conflict, and other serious issues.
This 'survival guide for the psyche' is packed with insights and strategies to help you build the resilience you need to succeed and grow, both personally and professionally, in the modern healthcare system.
In The Thriving Physician, Drs. Simonds and Sotile: Explore an array of stressors and provide coping strategies designed to help you defuse them Offer probing questions related to each stressor to spark reflection and discussion with colleagues and loved ones Highlight what creative organizations are doing to help reshape the medical workplace to promote physician resilience Weave in real life anecdotes throughout, taking their insights and advice from theoretical to deeply personal and relatable
You ve chosen a noble helping profession one that should be a source of joy and pride. Whether you read this book cover-to-cover or focus only on the stressors that most impact you, it can change your life for the better. It s time to take charge of your career; it s time to become a thriving physician.

The Thriving Physician: How to Avoid Burnout by Choosing Resilience Throughout Your Medical Career

Medical Books

Simonds, Gary R.

Administration & Medicine Economics

Huron Consulting Group, LLC

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Supercouple Syndrome: How Overworked Couples Can Beat Stress Together

Beat Stress Together

Supercouple Syndrome: How Overworked Couples Can Beat Stress Together

Psychosocial Interventions for Cardiopulmonary Patients: A Guide for Health Professionals

Marriage Skills for Busy Couples: How to Avoid Supercouple Syndrome

The Medical Marriage: A Couple's Survival Guide

The Medical Marriage: Sustaining Healthy Relationships for Physicians and Their Families

The Resilient Physician: Effective Emotional Management for Doctors and Their Medical Organizations

The Thriving Physician: How to Avoid Burnout by Choosing Resilience Throughout Your Medical Career