What happens when someone tells a racist joke or a sexist comment? Quite often everyone laughs and joins in the fun but there is usually an undercurrent of tension that is tactically avoided. This kind of situation is enacted in different gatherings probably thousands of times a day and rarely is there a solution to the tension and anger felt by others. Usually no-one attempts to resolve the rift that is created within the group. Instead people either laugh politely or loudly with embarrassment, or they try to change the subject quickly. Many people leave these gatherings feeling tense and angry, and puzzled by their own uneasy feelings. These jokes and comments are more than just inappropriate; they invite people to collaborate in another's deep-seated racism or sexism that has resulted from their inability or unwillingness to handle strong feelings. This book explores the differences between good handling and poor handling of people's attempts to collude. Good handling can lead to the owning of projections and to increased friendliness and cooperation, while poor handling leads to more deeply entrenched projections and isolation.

Encountering Bigotry: Befriending Projecting Persons in Everyday Life

Self-Help

Lichtenberg, Philip

Relationships

Jason Aronson, Inc.

In this book, the author maintains that true vitality can only come about from instituting equality into our relationships. He presents a series of essays which combine ideas from professional work in mental health, and activist experiences in social movements and inside oppressive institutions to promote a special personal-political position aimed at transforming authoritarian institutions into equalitarian ones.

Getting Even

Health, Fitness & Dieting

Psychology & Counseling

University Press of America

Getting Even: The Equalizing Law of Relationship

<p>Bridging the gap between psychology and politics, Lichtenberg presents a powerful argument for applying the methods and insights of the Gestalt perspective to social and political problems. Focusing on the inner dynamics of power and abuse relationships, this thoughtful treatment of victim/oppressor fusion has stimulated new thinking about abuse, exploitation, and the processes and methods essential to personal and political change.</p>

Community and Confluence: Undoing the Clinch of Oppression (Gestalt Institute of Cleveland Book Series)

Mental Health

Gestalt Press

Encountering Bigotry: Befriending Projecting People in Everyday Life

<p>Encountering Bigotry examines the occurrence of emotionally fraught and socially provocative expressions, such as racism, sexism, homophobia, anti-Semitism, classism, and other forms of hatred of outgroups or others, in everyday experience.  The editors categorize such remarks as projections, particular forms of perceiving oneself and others in the world.  This projection allows the person to perceive emotional intensity without owning (i.e., without attributing to the self) the feeling or experiencing anxiety-producing emotions.  Such projections are not pathological, they observe, but rather "faulty" and not beyond repair. Utilizing experiences gathered from various people and settings, and deriving theory from common psychoanalytic and Gestalt therapy, the observations and conclusions found in Encountering Bigotry are as applicable in any social context as they are in the therapeutic relationship.     </p>

Encountering Bigotry

Routledge

Community and Confluence: Undoing the Clinch of Oppression

Encountering Bigotry examines the occurrence of emotionally fraught and socially provocative expressions, such as racism, sexism, homophobia, anti-Semitism, classism, and other forms of hatred of outgroups or others, in everyday experience. The editors categorize such remarks as projections, particular forms of perceiving oneself and others in the world. This projection allows the person to perceive emotional intensity without owning (i.e., without attributing to the self) the feeling or experiencing anxiety-producing emotions. Such projections are not pathological, they observe, but rather "faulty" and not beyond repair. Utilizing experiences gathered from various people and settings, and deriving theory from common psychoanalytic and Gestalt therapy, the observations and conclusions found in Encountering Bigotry are as applicable in any social context as they are in the therapeutic relationship.

Gibbons, Dorothy

Beusekom, Janneke

Bridging the gap between psychology and politics, Lichtenberg presents a powerful argument for applying the methods and insights of the Gestalt perspective to social and political problems. Focusing on the inner dynamics of power and abuse relationships, this thoughtful treatment of victim/oppressor fusion has stimulated new thinking about abuse, exploitation, and the processes and methods essential to personal and political change.

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Encountering Bigotry: Befriending Projecting Persons in Everyday Life

Getting Even

Getting Even: The Equalizing Law of Relationship

Community and Confluence: Undoing the Clinch of Oppression (Gestalt Institute of Cleveland Book Series)

Encountering Bigotry

Community and Confluence: Undoing the Clinch of Oppression

Encountering Bigotry: Befriending Projecting People in Everyday Life

Community and Confluence: Undoing the Clinch of Oppression