“Detachment” has been the standard message of most addiction literature for the last twenty years. The conventional wisdom offered to an addict’s loved ones has been to let the addict “hit bottom” before intervening. Now intervention specialist Debra Jay challenges this belief and offers a bold new approach to treating addiction that provides a practical and spiritual lifeline to families struggling with alcohol or drug abuse. In No More Letting Go, Jay argues that the traditional advice of “letting go” too often destroys both the addict and the family physically, emotionally, and spiritually. Jay contends that addiction is everybody’s business–not just the addict’s–and addiction doesn’t have the right to trump the welfare of a family. In short, highly accessible chapters written with warmth, understanding, and compassion, Jay weaves together philosophical and religious thought; new science on the brain function of an addict; the physical and psychological impact of addiction on family members; and poignant, real-life family stories. No More Letting Go is a powerful, informative guide that provides comfort, hope, and practical advice to anyone affected by a family member’s addiction.

No More Letting Go: The Spirituality of Taking Action Against Alcoholism and Drug Addiction

Jay, Debra

Religion & Spirituality

Random House Publishing Group

If alcoholics and addicts won't accept help until they're ready, what gets them ready? This book provides an answer in clear, concise terms. Dispelling two damaging myths -- that an addict has to hit bottom and that intervention must be confrontational -- the authors' proven approach puts love first and shows families, step by step, what to do next. 
"A convincing new approach to intervention that puts love and respect first." Jack Canfield, coauthor of Chicken Soup for the Soul Series 
"Building a team, choosing a chairperson, anticipating objections, using checklists, and rehearsing for the intervention itself -- the reader will find it all here!" Robert M. Morse, M.D., Professor emeritus, psychiatry, Mayo Medical School and Former director of Addictive Disorders Services, Mayo Clinic. 
"Love First is destined to become the new classic on intervention for alcoholism and drug addiction. The most comprehensive book available on the life-saving technique of intervention, Love First will save lives! A worthy successor to Vernon Johnson¿s I¿ll Quit Tomorrow." --Kathy Ketcham, Coauthor, Beyond the Influence and The Spirituality of Imperfection 
"Love First provides the most detailed account yet of how intervention works. A significant contribution to intervention literature. An empowering antidote to the disease of addiction." --William l. White, author Slaying the Dragon: The History of Addiction Treatment

Love First: A New Approach to Intervention for Alcoholism and Drug Addiction (Hezelden Guidebook)

Health, Fitness & Dieting

Jay, Jeff

Addiction & Recovery

Hazelden

The authors, both experts in the field of addiction treatment and intervention, provide a respectful, definitive guide for recognizing and addressing substance abuse among older adults. Addiction among older adults is a hidden and hushed problem. Signs and symptoms of alcohol or medication abuse can easily be mistaken for conditions related to aging. And even when friends or family members recognize signs of addiction, they often discount the need for intervention or treatment. With an estimated three million older Americans struggling with alcohol and drug misuse and abuse, Aging and Addiction is a much-needed resource. The authors, both experts in the field of addiction treatment and intervention, provide a respectful, definitive guide for recognizing and addressing substance abuse among older adults. Key topics include: understanding the relationship between aging and addiction, finding help for a loved one, and recognizing the treatment needs of older adults.

Aging and Addiction: Helping Older Adults Overcome Alcohol or Medication Dependence-A Hazelden Guidebook (Hazelden Guidebooks)

Colleran, Carol

Hazelden Publishing

Counselor and interventionist Debra Jay shows alcoholics, other addicts, and their loved ones how to work collaboratively and as individuals to take on the roles and responsibilities that support long-term sobriety. Most books on recovery from addiction focus either on the addict or the family. While most alcoholics and addicts coming out of treatment have a recovery plan, families are often left to figure things out for themselves. In It Takes a Family, Debra Jay takes a fresh approach to the recovery process by making family members and friends part of the recovery team, beginning in the early stages of sobriety. In straightforward, compassionate language, she outlines a structured model that shows family members both how to take personal responsibility and to build a circle of support to meet the obstacles common to the first year of recovery. Together, family members address the challenges of enabling, denial, and pain while developing their communication skills through practical, easy-to-follow strategies and exercises designed to create transparency and accountability. With this invaluable guide, family members work together as they reinvent their relationships without the all-consuming dysfunction of active addiction.

It Takes A Family: A Cooperative Approach to Lasting Sobriety

Parenting & Relationships

It Takes a Family: A Cooperative Approach to Lasting Sobriety

Product Description 
This revised and expanded third edition of the gold-standard for intervention provides clear steps for harnessing the power of family, friends, and professionals to create a better future with loved ones suffering r from addiction. \nOver the course of the last twenty years, Love First has become the go-to intervention guide for tens of thousands of families. This trailblazing book empowers and equips families and friends to use the power of love and honesty to give their addicted loved ones a chance to reach for help. Updated with the latest addiction science as well as insights gained from decades of front-line experience in family interventions, this revised and expanded edition contains practical tools for taking the next step together: transforming the intervention team into an ongoing community of loving support, lasting accountability, and lifelong recovery. 
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Jeff and Debra Jay are leaders in the behavioral health field. As a clinician, educator, author and fellow interventionist I am a huge fan of their work. Many of my clients have found Love First to be indispensable to their growth. A must read for Cliniciand and Families. -- Dr. Louise Stanger, Clinician, author of Addiction in The Family: Helping Families Navigate Challenges, emotions and Recovery\nLove First is such a fundamental tool for any family that is affected by the disease of addiction. It is unique in its ability to bring about an intervention approach through love, acceptance, and positivity. -- Rabbi Yarden Blumstein, founder and director of UMatter\nA compelling and systematic way of reaching your loved one who may have fallen down and lifting them up to lofty heights. Jeff and Debra Jay are consummate professionals who speak from the heart and connect individuals and families making them whole again. -- Colin King Ph. D Clinical Psychologist Co-host of the show "For Guys Only."\nA beautifully enhanced " Bible", that I have used with clients for 20 years. It goes beyond getting a loved one into treatment. The inclusiveness of a structured family recovery restores the family integrity WITH LOVE -- Michael S Parr MD,FASAM\nWith the 3rd Edition of Love First, the Jays continue to demonstrate that they are the preeminent experts in the field of addiction intervention. In this unprecedented time of ever-increasing deaths from addiction, it is not an exaggeration that literally everyone in the world should read and appreciate this book. -- Buddy Stockwell JD, CCI, Executive Director, Tennessee Lawyers Assistance Program (TLAP)\nA sane model of intervention which increases your chance of reaching an addict with psychological injury or complications. -- Jerry A. Boriskin, Ph.D., V.A. Northern California, Senior Psychologist, Specializing in Post-traumatic Stress Disorder\nLove First offers forward looking guideposts and meaningful and effective steps for long-term success in intervention and recovery--including strategies for unique and difficult situations. -- Dr. Miriam Engstrom, PsyD, Co-founder and coordinator of The Michigan TriCounty Trauma Recovery Network\nThe best primer for those who love an addict or alcoholic. -- James Balmer, President of Dawn Farm Community of Programs\nIn "Love First", Jeff and Debra Jay present a clear path to helping a person we care about recover and grow, without losing ourselves in the process. Family members, friends and professionals will all gain from this gentle, yet assertive approach. -- Rabbi Benny Greenwald, director of The Daniel B. Sobel Friendship House\nWhen families are considering intervention for their loved ones and reach out to me for recommendations, I have only one: “Love First” by Jeff and Debra Jay. There is no better resource. The Jays gently lead families through the intervention process, all the while honoring the core family value: love. -- Sherry Gaugler-Stewart, Director of Family and Spiritual Recovery at The Retreat, Wayzata, MN\nWisdom and compass

Love First: A Family's Guide to Intervention (Love First Family Recovery)

This&nbsp;second edition of the&nbsp;groundbreaking&nbsp;book by&nbsp;acclaimed&nbsp;interventionist&nbsp;and&nbsp;educator&nbsp;Debra Jay&nbsp;celebrates&nbsp;the&nbsp;unique and powerful&nbsp;role families&nbsp;play&nbsp;in successful long-term recovery from addiction.&nbsp;Readers&nbsp;receive&nbsp;tips,&nbsp;tools,&nbsp;and&nbsp;a&nbsp;framework for&nbsp;pursuing the&nbsp;proven path&nbsp;of Structured Family Recovery.&nbsp; As a companion&nbsp;to&nbsp;Love First, the&nbsp;classic&nbsp;guide to family intervention,&nbsp;It Takes a Family&nbsp;delivers&nbsp;a&nbsp;proven&nbsp;method for families and friends to&nbsp;step beyond the&nbsp;initial&nbsp;intervention&nbsp;and&nbsp;reinvent their&nbsp;relationships&nbsp;as&nbsp;part of a family recovery team.&nbsp;In straightforward, compassionate language,&nbsp;Debra Jay&nbsp;offers readers&nbsp;a structured model that shows family members&nbsp;and friends&nbsp;how&nbsp;they&nbsp;can work together to&nbsp;overcome&nbsp;the obstacles&nbsp;many&nbsp;people with addiction&nbsp;face&nbsp;in&nbsp;their initial&nbsp;recovery.&nbsp;Through easy-to-follow strategies and exercises, family members&nbsp;learn about and&nbsp;address the challenges of enabling, denial, and pain while developing their communication skills&nbsp;and embracing the joy that comes from healthier and happier relationships.&nbsp;

It Takes a Family: Creating Lasting Sobriety, Togetherness, and Happiness (Love First Family Recovery)

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