Love's Hidden Symmetry: What Makes Love Work in Relationships

Self-Help

HELLINGER, BERT

Beaumont, Hunter

Weber, Gunthard

Relationships

Zeig, Tucker & Theisen, Inc.

This volume is a record of journalist Gabriele ten Hovel's probing interview with Bert Hellinger. In it Hellinger sheds new light on his unique use of family constellations to reveal hidden, often destructive family dynamics and to activate healing resources.

Acknowledging What Is: Conversations With Bert Hellinger

Health, Fitness & Dieting

Ten Hovel, Gabriele

Psychology & Counseling

In the three short years since the publication in English of Love's Hidden Symmetry, Bert Hellinger has traveled light years toward an even greater understanding of the intricacies of relationship and resolution. Love's Own Truths represents another important milestone in the search. For readers, the book is a compass left at the side of the road. We can leave it there -- afraid that we may have to change course -- or we can pick it up to see where it directs us. 
Hellinger describes Love's Own Truths as a fundamental statement of his approach. And for those who know him, clearly this was no small task. The approach -- practical, improbable, complex, and simple -- cannot be easily described. It must be "seen." 
First, the verbatim transcripts of three powerful workshops allow access to the various ways in which fragments of the life force puzzle can break apart or come together over generations. Time and again, feelings of distress can be traced to disconnects in the family system and the deeply subconscious attempts of other parts of the system -- whether one or many family members -- to put things back in balance. Readers will discover many opportunities to unlock new perspectives in their own healing process as they stand alongside the workshop participants. 
Second, explanations of the therapeutic linchpins that hold this approach together, even when all hell is breaking loose, help readers grasp what is happening, especially in the family constellations, when the healing movements are subtle or seemingly obscure. Pivotal are the discussions of the resumption and completion of previously interrupted movements by a young child toward the mother or father. 
Third, Bert Hellinger describes in detail the "inner posture" that both gives meaning to and draws meaning from what he calls phenomenological psychotherapy. Given the chance, the congruence between the posture and the process gives power to the resolutions that are revealed so that they may be dependable and enduring. 
The inclusion of several of Hellinger's teaching stories adds yet another dimension to the reading. We quickly realize that some points are made stronger when they are lifted out of the immediate context, which may be emotionally charged and distracting. A master storyteller, Hellinger's gentleness and humor come through very clearly. The closing interview -- or conversation between friends -- offers another opportunity to understand the work on a different level and to see the man behind it through a new lens. Here, after being the subject of so much debate, Hellinger has the chance to express his views in an open and intellectually generous forum. 
At one point, in speaking about death, Hellinger says, " I respect and trust reality more than I trust our human illusions about it, and this may seem hard to some people. To me, it is humility and a very deep, basic trust in what actually is." Love's Own Truths: A compass to help guide us to "what actually is" across many dimensions -- because it's there that healing can begin.

Love's Own Truths: Bonding and Balancing in Close Relationships

When couples turn to therapy or to self-help, they are usually looking for a way to "fix" their "problem." Common solutions might entail improving communication skills, identifying unproductive interaction patterns, or changing some specific behaviors. 
When a couple steps into the work of Bert Hellinger, the partners are entering a realm of uncommon solution. Hellinger's approach -- family constellations and the underlying observations from which they take shape -- taps into the deepest dynamics of a relationship. People begin to see just how unseen forces, including non-present family members and those of past generations, and the choices that were made long ago, affect the current partners' connections with each other at many different levels. 
Supporting Love presents verbatim transcripts of constellations with numerous couples, supplemented by questions, commentary, and discussion, to bring this multidimensional process into focus. Typically, a constellation moves through two stages. In the first, hidden -- yet compelling -- influences on the family are revealed. In the second phase, healing movements and statements are discovered -- or recovered -- and then tested within the constellation. The "psychic adjustment" that takes place, whether great or small, expands the couple's vocabulary in creating solution. 
Bert Hellinger's voice is clear and strong on such topics as love, suffering, bonding, giving and taking, parenthood, childlessness, faithfulness, separation, and sexuality. Throughout the book, there are moments of exquisite clarity and moments of uneasy surprise: the resonance and discord of new insights into the ways we can support love -- and the ways that love can support us.

Supporting Love : How Love Works in Couple Relationships

A good poem can hold the universe in a few words. This collection of Bert Hellinger's aphorisms and stories shows what happens when a healer's mind works with a poet's pen. Single truths become manifold. Small affirmations take on great power. Soothing stories carry tough messages. And sometimes reality gets turned absolutely upside down, and though we may squirm in our seats, we understand something more than we did before.

On Life & Other Paradoxes: Aphorisms and Little Stories from Bert Hellinger

Supporting Love: How Love Works in Couple Relationships

n°290 A la découverte des constellations familiales: De la théorie à la pratique

JOUVENCE

This third volume in the series: Orders of Success, deals with specific topics that decide over success or failure, either because their significance is not understood or because it is knowingly disregarded. This book goes beyond the narrow frame of reference of primarily object- focused consultancy. This consultancy includes all of life. It acknowledges that enterprises and professions remain embedded into the larger process of life, serving as well as obeying them. Like the other books in this series, preceding this one, it is also a book of wisdom. Many insights that may shock you at first, will prove themselves to be consoling. They serve another love, a wide, encompassing love. They reconcile and unite what has been separated for a long time; and they lead to another, a different, a more encompassing and richer success and happiness.

Topics of business consultancy: Orders of success: 1

Politics & Social Sciences

Philosophy

Hellinger Publication

One way to look at life in general, and our own within, is through its details. There are details enough to keep us busy for a long time - until our last breaths, in fact. And often this is the way we do it: like short-order cooks with an array of pots and pans on the fire. Another way to look is to take in the entire vista, as far as the eye can see and even the unknown beyond the limitations of our sight. Pure Consciousness is written from the realm of the latter; details, by definition, encompassed, and yet not dwelled upon. Here Bert Hellinger imagines the whole, which includes all of its parts but doesn't value any one above the others. As readers, we are in intimate conversation with the author, imagining with him, touching, tasting, and envisioning the landscape he speaks of. It is a joyful, tender experience. For a moment, the details fall away - struggles, judgments, fears - and we know ourselves to be carried securely, and in good company. For a moment, we may experience a shift in state to one that is in tune with the deepest assumption of the all-enveloping love. For a moment, all moments are one.

Pure Consciousness: Paths of löve

What is known is vast. What is unknown can only be glimpsed. And while many of us climb sand dunes trying to grasp some small aspect of the first, others of us attempt to negotiate the latter, usually trying to make it manageable by squeezing the unfathomable into the limitations of our understanding. The dilemma is that we are aware that there is more to life, to us, than all human-initiated study can tell, and at the same time, we sense that the mystery is unattainable, so that any attempt to unravel the riddle will inevitably prove futile. Living Transcendence accounts for what is known and what cannot be known and even for the ephemeral nature of the thoughts communicated within it. It is both rooted and free-flowing in its impressions of what it means to live in the expansiveness of life's dynamic trajectories without retreating into the illusion of control. Bert Hellinger has always been a traveler who keeps copious track of the images along the way. His direction is set toward the endlessly unfolding. As readers, we pick up these notes to find a radical philosophy of all-encompassing love that addresses all of our deepest sorrows and most difficult challenges. The answers are not in the details but in the complete shift from narrow to broad, from individual isolation to the assumption of connectedness. To return to this natural state takes practice, but it first takes someone to remind us that we may have let it slip away. Bert Hellinger does that - and then he tells us what he has learned about being in accordance with rather than in opposition to this love. This state of empowered surrender is what we will come to know as living transcendence.

Living Transcendence: cognizing what will be

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