“Anyone who had a troubled childhood ought to read this book.”—Anne H. Cohn, D.P.H., Executive Director, National Committee for Prevention of Child Abuse Do you have trouble finding friends, lovers, acquaintances? Once you find them, do they dump on you, take advantage of you, or leave? Are you in a relationship you know isn't good for you? Are you still trying to figure out what you want to do when you grow up? Are you drinking too much, eating too much or trying to numb your pain with drugs of any kind? These are just a few of the problems abused children experience when they become adults. You may not realize you were abused. You may think your parents didn't mean it, didn't know better, or that others had it much worse. You may not even have made the connection between the past and your current problems. Outgrowing the Pain is an important book for any adult who was abused or neglected in childhood. It's an important book for professionals who help others. It's a book of questions that can pinpoint and illuminate destructive patterns. The answers you discover can lead to a life filled with new insight, hope, and love. “The best book available to help survivors cope and understand.”—Dan Sexton, Director, Childhelp's National Abuse Hotline “An invaluable aid for adult survivors of child abuse.”—Suzanne M. Sgroi, M.D., Executive Director, New England Clinical Associates

Outgrowing the Pain: A Book for and About Adults Abused As Children

Gil, Eliana

Health, Fitness & Dieting

Dell

Because love is not enough... a step-by-step plan for overcoming obstacles together. Childhood abuse has many forms, but the message is always the same: people who love you hurt you. If you are the spouse or partner of a survivor of an abusive childhood, you know what that means-a relationship that has you worried, angry, or frustrated. You may be wondering if the person you love will ever "get over" his or her past, and if you can ever have a "normal" relationship. You may even have thought about leaving out of frustration and despair. But there is real help. Therapist Eliana Gil understands the special problems you and your partner face. Based on her extensive clinical experience with adults abused as children, she has developed a unique, much-needed program specifically for couples. It provides guidance in: Anger management. Safe and successful ways to express feelings. The dangerous trigger words: what are they; what they do. Touching or being touched: no more fear; no more guilt. Good sex: Loving, fulfilling intimacy. Decision-making and power: equal partners at last. Ending the silence: communication that worked. Commitment: being able to count on tomorrow... and more.

Outgrowing the Pain Together

Self-Help

A direct, informed approach involving all family members An invaluable guide for enhancing your skills when working withfamilies in which child abuse has occurred. Systemic Treatment ofFamilies Who Abuse addresses both the symptoms and precipitatingissues of child abuse and neglect, and also * offers new ideas for effective treatment * identifies the conditions that are often present when child abuseoccurs * outlines the protective factors that can counteract a person'stAndency toward child abuse The author discusses how the treatment of child abuse differs fromgeneric treatment, and stresses the necessity for systemicinterventions for everyone: abusers, abused, and nonabused familymembers.

Systemic Treatment of Families Who Abuse

Mental Health

Jossey-Bass

This book describes how therapists can both facilitate constructive play therapy and intervene in posttraumatic play to help children who have been traumatized by abuse or neglect achieve a positive resolution. Traditional techniques of play therapy are reviewed for their application to this population. Throughout, numerous therapeutic aids are described to enhance the child's capacity to communicate verbally or symbolically. To help clinicians translate theory into daily practice, the book presents six detailed clinical vignettes that offer step-by-step guidelines for assessment and intervention in different situations of abuse or neglect.

The Healing Power of Play: Working with Abused Children

Psychology & Counseling

The Guilford Press

Play in Family Therapy, First Edition

"At a national conference, I presented a workshop entitled "Do Children Hate Family Therapy?" The attendance was good. Too good. Clearly, the title struck a chord, because children often seem to dislike family therapy. And who could fault them for it? The fact is that many family therapists either exclude young children or do not know how to involve them actively in family sessions.... "This is where Dr. Gil's new book succeeds so wonderfully. By drawing on her extensive training and experience as both a child therapist and a family therapist, she shows us how to use all family members' capacities for expressive play simultaneously. Never before have we been treated to such a variety of family play techniques that are presented in such vivid clinical detail....Her methods are captivating to read about and described with sufficient depth so that the reader can visualize their application in everyday clinical situations." --From the Foreword by Robert-Jay Green, Ph.D. In Play in Family Therapy, Dr. Eliana Gil provides a hands-on guide to a wealth of play therapy techniques for working with children ages 3 to 12, and shows how to adapt these techniques to conjoint family therapy. Illustrating the inexhaustible potential that play techniques hold for enhancing relatedness, communication, and understanding among families, this essential new volume represents a major step toward merging child and family therapy. Chapters in Part One cover the history of play therapy and the integration of play into family therapy. In Part Two, clinical vignettes illustrate in user-friendly detail the application of such techniques as puppet interviews, art therapy, and story-telling. Dr. Gil covers the presenting problems and family configurations clinicians are likely to encounter when working with children. Throughout, the text describes the problems that may arise--such as family members' reluctance to use play--and shows how to overcome them by setting a positive tone and conveying the expectation that families will find play enjoyable and rewarding. Providing clinicians with useful play techniques with which to expand their repertoire of family interventions, this work will be invaluable to all therapists and students who work with children and their families.

Foster Parenting Abused Children

Natl Committee for the

This much-needed book pinpoints the typical problems abused children experience when they become adults. The information is presented in a friendly and thorough manner for victims and professionals.

Outgrowing the pain: A book for and about adults abused as children

Parenting & Relationships

Family Relationships

Dell Publishing Co.

This is a small handbook for children about the effects of sexual abuse.

I Told My Secret: A Book for Kids Who Were Abused

Children's Books

Growing Up & Facts of Life

Launch Pr

This is a practical, down to earth guide for mental health professionals assisting adult survivors of childhood abuse. Short and long term effects of abuse are presented, (as well as clinical findings from 99 survivors), setting a foundation for the type of therapeutic response most helpful. Assessment of victims who characteristically do not self disclose is emphasized. Specific treatment "phases" are presented with clear goals in each phase. Special issues such as dissociative phenomena, trauma resolution, and group therapy are highlighted.

Treatment of Adult Survivors of Childhood Abuse

Politics & Social Sciences

Sociology

This book is written for individuals with multiple personalities, and explains what multiplicity is, why it develops, how to understand it,and when and how to seek help. Multiples have too long suffered with nagging worries about being crazy or so unique that they cannot have friends or companionship. This book defines multiplicity as a creative and life saving adaptive strategy, not as a disorder or sign of mental illness.

United We Stand: A Book for People With Multiple Personalities

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