The Parenting Plan Worksheet is the conscientious caregiver’s only developmentally-informed means of creating a child-centered parenting plan. Sixteen discrete but interlocking modules allow parents singly or together to better understand the intricate decisions that will guide the future allocation of their parenting rights and responsibilities. This book, The Roadmap to The Parenting Plan Worksheet, is the professional’s guide to using the Parenting Plan Worksheet. The Roadmap dissects the sixteen component modules of the Worksheet, presenting case law, theory and empirical discussion. Mediators, parenting coordinators, lawyers and courts use the Roadmap to guide parents through the rocky terrain that can lead to the creation of a child-centered, developmentally-informed parenting plan.

The Roadmap to the Parenting Plan Worksheet: Putting Parenting Priorities in the Context of Research, Theory and Case Law

Self-Help

Garber, Benjamin D.

Relationships

Unhooked Books

When to hold on; when to let go—a constant dilemma of parenthood. This timely book examines the balance between these powerful dynamics. How parents can instill confidence and security in children and how professionals can recognize and respond when this process goes awry. Holding too long and too tight? Letting go too soon and too easily? Includes down-to-earth descriptions of family systems and identity development and guidance on remaining an emotional anchor in children's lives as they launch toward independence.
Psychologist Benjamin Garber is author of Keeping Kids Out of the Middle and Developmental Psychology for Family Law Professionals.

Holding Tight-Letting Go: Raising Healthy Kids in AnxiousTimes

Personal Transformation

This unique volume and the accompanying forms provide you with ten forensic family evaluation tools ready for immediate use. These tools have been developed by Dr. Benjamin D. Garber over the course of more than twenty years and tempered through the process of treating and evaluating hundreds of high conflict families. Ten Child-Centered Forensic Family Evaluation Tools provides the family law professional with critical means of navigating through the complex and contradictory history and reports that commonly arise in the context of custody-related litigation. These are the tools that have been missing to date, necessary if one hopes to map out the conflicted family’s strengths and weaknesses, needs and wishes in an organized, systematic and reliable manner. More than just data collection, Ten Child-Centered Forensic Family Evaluation Tools anchors parent, child and third-party report in the hard data underlying psychology and family law. This volume not only makes Dr. Garber’s tools available for immediate use, it provides the reader with up-to-date references to critical areas of inquiry. Responses can thus be interpreted not only by comparison among co-parents, but also by comparison between respondents and the extant literature. Use of these Ten Child-Centered Forensic Family Evaluation Tools secures evaluations in science, buttresses interpretations in empirical data, and anchors the evaluator’s testimony in the contemporary literature all to the benefit of none so much as the child. Ten Child-Centered Forensic Family Evaluation Tools is structured into six broad categories. Each begins with an introduction to the general topic, includes an annotated discussion of the instrument(s) being introduced and a select list of references. The tools themselves are laid out page-by-page with critical items highlight and cross-referenced. The accompanying CD-ROM includes all ten tools ready to print and to become the foundation of the professionals’ next forensic family evaluation.

Ten Child-Centered Forensic Family Evaluation Tools: An Empirically Annotated User's Guide

Health, Fitness & Dieting

Psychology & Counseling

Product Description 
High conflict divorce can leave children polarized within the transitioning family system, aligned with one parent and resisting or refusing contact with the other parent. Rather than becoming mired in the bottomless pit of back and forth blame, more and more courts are seeking remedies in the form of reunification therapy. 
Charged with helping the polarized child to enjoy a healthy relationship with both parents, we know what doesn’t work: individual child therapy cannot remedy a family systems problem. Dyadic interventions with the child and either parent are seldom sufficient. Even family therapies fall short when they are not grounded in well-established, reliable and valid science. 
Mending Fences introduces a child-centered, systemically informed, empirically-validated and experientially-proven collaborative reunification protocol. Focusing on the anxiety inhibiting the system’s healthy functioning, well-respected and long-validated cognitive behavioral exposure methods are fused with structural family therapy to reduce the child’s anxieties about separating from one parent and approaching the other, the aligned parent’s fears of separation and loss, and the rejected parent’s fears of rejection. 
A common vocabulary across coordinated interventions allows children across the spectrum of ages and abilities to identify and overcome an individually tailored succession of anxiety-inducing events so as to gradually (re-)establish healthy and safe relationships with both parents. 
The Mending Fences protocol is practical, proven, and effective. The user-friendly discussion is peppered with up-to-date references to the scientific literature and international case law. Application via video conferencing platforms is discussed. 
Included: Case illustrations, sample court orders and service agreements 
Table of Contents 
Caveat Lector 
Foreword 
Chapter 1 There Is No Such Thing as Reunification Therapy 
Chapter 2 Know When to Hold ‘Em: Receiving, Accepting, or Declining the Referral 
Chapter 3 The Court Order 
Chapter 4 The Service Agreement 
Chapter 5 In the Age of Telehealth 
Chapter 6 On Villages and Blind Wisemen: MMST as a Team Sport 
Chapter 7 Initial Adult Interviews 
Chapter 8 Establishing Rapport with the Child 
Chapter 9 Conducting Initial Child Interviews; Segueing into Anxiety Management 
Chapter 10 Understanding Anxiety 
Chapter 11 Anxiety Management, Exposure, and the MMST Protocol 
Chapter 12 Working through the Success Deck: Creative, Responsive, and Graduated Exposure 
Chapter 13 When MMST Isn’t Enough 
Appendix A Sample Court Order 
Appendix B Sample Service Agreement 
Appendix C Sample Timeline of Multi-Modal 
Systemic Reunification Therapy 
Citations 
Acknowledgments 
Index 
 Review 
I agree with Ben Garber. As a lawyer and as a therapist, I agree with his criticism of most court orders for reunification therapy in high conflict divorce cases and I agree with his structure for more appropriate and effective family therapy in these cases.\nSomething needs to change when there is child resistance and refusal to see one parent during and after separation and divorce, and it needs to change now. This problem is growing nationally and internationally. Many children, parents and even grandparents are suffering from the loss of important and necessary relationships, while children are often isolated with a parent with serious problems. This is a continuing tragedy that many family law professionals (lawyers, judges, counselors, mediators, evaluators) can see, but few professionals understand what to do about it. Ben Garber is one of those who knows what to do and we really need to pay attention to his recommendations and get going with implementing them. 
The most important principle he emphasizes at the start of this book is that the problem of child resistance and refusal is not just between the child and the “rejected” parent. The problem is one of family dynamics. It’s tempting to put the child in indivi

Mending Fences: A Collaborative, Cognitive-Behavioral Reunification Protocol Serving the Best Interests of the Post-Divorce, Polarized Child

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The Roadmap to the Parenting Plan Worksheet: Putting Parenting Priorities in the Context of Research, Theory and Case Law

Holding Tight-Letting Go: Raising Healthy Kids in AnxiousTimes

Ten Child-Centered Forensic Family Evaluation Tools: An Empirically Annotated User's Guide

Mending Fences: A Collaborative, Cognitive-Behavioral Reunification Protocol Serving the Best Interests of the Post-Divorce, Polarized Child