Getting to Zero: How to Work Through Conflict in Your High-Stakes Relationships

The relationship teacher, coach, and founder of The Relationship School reveals the origins of conflict styles, how to stop avoiding difficult conversations, and how to resolve conflict in our most important relationships.\nConflicts in our closest relationships are scary because so much is at stake. If the conflict doesn't go well, we could lose our marriage, our family or our job, all connected to our security and survival. So we do just about anything not to lose those relationships, including avoid conflict, betraying ourselves or becoming dishonest. Unresolved conflict affects every single aspect of our lives, from self-confidence to physical and mental health.\nJayson Gaddis is a personal trainer for relationships and one of the world’s leading authorities on interpersonal conflict. For almost two decades, Gaddis has helped individuals, couples, and teams get to the bottom of their deepest conflicts. He helps people see the wisdom in conflict and how to get to zero—which means we have successfully worked through our conflict and have nothing in the way of a good connection.\nIn Getting to Zero, Gaddis shows the reader how to stop running away from uncomfortable conversations and instead learn how to work through them. Through funny personal stories, uncomfortable examples, and effective tools and skills, he shows the reader how to move from disconnection to connection, acceptance, and understanding. This method upgrades the old tired and static conflict resolution approaches and offers a fresh, street-level, user-friendly road map on exactly how to work through conflict with the people you care most about.

Self-Help

Gaddis, Jayson

Relationships

Hachette Go

Product Description \nThe relationship teacher, coach, and founder of The Relationship School reveals the origins of conflict styles, how to stop avoiding difficult conversations, and how to resolve conflict in our most important relationships.\nConflicts in our closest relationships are scary because so much is at stake. If the conflict doesn't go well, we could lose our marriage, our family or our job, all connected to our security and survival. So we do just about anything not to lose those relationships, including avoid conflict, betraying ourselves or becoming dishonest. Unresolved conflict affects every single aspect of our lives, from self-confidence to physical and mental health.\nJayson Gaddis is a personal trainer for relationships and one of the world’s leading authorities on interpersonal conflict. For almost two decades, Gaddis has helped individuals, couples, and teams get to the bottom of their deepest conflicts. He helps people see the wisdom in conflict and how to get to zero—which means we have successfully worked through our conflict and have nothing in the way of a good connection.\nIn 
Getting to Zero, Gaddis shows the reader how to stop running away from uncomfortable conversations and instead learn how to work through them. Through funny personal stories, uncomfortable examples, and effective tools and skills, he shows the reader how to move from disconnection to connection, acceptance, and understanding. This method upgrades the old tired and static conflict resolution approaches and offers a fresh, street-level, user-friendly road map on exactly how to work through conflict with the people you care most about.\nReview 
“In this compelling guide to approaching conflict in our most intimate relationships, Jayson Gaddis offers a science-informed, practical toolbox for resolving the inevitable tensions that arise in our personal and professional lives. Filled with useful concepts and readily applicable steps to sensing and solving interpersonal challenges, repairing ruptures when they occur, this book is 
not about trying to achieve a life without difficulties in our relationships, but 
is about moving toward a receptive state of calm and clarity—a state our author names as “zero”—in which we can engage our inner life and our connections with others with kindness and presence that research suggests are at the core of mutually rewarding, generative ways of living with compassion, connection, and well-being.”― 
Daniel J. Siegel, M.D., Executive Director, Mindsight Institute, New York Times bestselling author IntraConnected; Mind; Mindsight, and Aware\n“ 
Getting to Zero is an excellent guidebook for anyone looking to improve their conflict management skills. Jayson’s storytelling is impactful, his insights are wise, and his message is clear and heartfelt.”― 
"Coach Mike" Bayer, New York Times bestselling author of Best Self and One Decision\n“Jayson Gaddis has written, in our view, one of the most clear and helpful books on this endemic feature of our humanity: conflict. If you want to know what conflict is and how to resolve it, 
Getting to Zero will give you to that destination. We recommend this book to everyone who has ever felt that twitch which plunges us into darkness. While it is replete with accessible theory about what is happening in your mind and brain, it is even more generous with practical guidance from that will lead you from conflict to connection.”― 
Harville Hendrix, Ph. D. and Helen LaKelly Hunt, Ph. D. Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples\n"Jayson Gaddis’ excellent new book, Getting to Zero, is a fabulous couple guide to conflict solutions interspersed with inspirational self-disclosures of Jayson's own life and relationship experiences. He provides valuable conceptual framing and techniques for managing conflict. His detailed insights will be of great value to readers interested in effective loving relationships."― 
Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT, developer of the Psychobiolog

Real, Actionable Relationship Advice Without the Fluff Real relationships aren't just filled with romance, great sex, and warm, fuzzy feelings forever. All romantic relationships get stressful and challenging. After the honeymoon phase is over, maintaining a loving relationship can get downright hard, and even painful. How you handle the daily challenges of life (alone and together with your partner) will determine whether your relationship gets better or goes down the shitter. The difference between a struggling couple and a smart couple is the smart couple learns how to handle interpersonal stress and relationship challenges with the right map and tools. Discover the Tools for Building a Loving Relationship That Gets Even Better Year After Year In this relationship book for couples and individuals, you will discover the tools you need to create and maintain an incredible relationship—one that gets stronger over time instead of drifting apart. The lessons and love quotes in this book will help you deepen your relationship instead of running away, blaming, or staying stuck in an unfulfilling partnership. Most marriage books try to sell you a "happily ever after" life while skipping over the pain and struggle that comes in all long-term relationships. While avoiding pain may feel good in the short-term, these bad habits will destroy your relationship in the long run. This book will help you squash those fantasies and remind you a fulfilling marriage is earned, not given. Relationship teacher Jayson Gaddis will challenge you and inspire you to think differently about how you deal with the inevitable relationship problems that arise. Instead of viewing every issue or confrontation as an attack to be afraid of, you will learn to lean into the deepest parts of yourself in order to grow, heal, and reconnect with your partner. From Wound Mates to Soul Mates The smart couple learns to move from wound mates to soul mates that inspire the very best in each other. When you make this move, you become a love warrior, destined for a strong partnership over many years. It's not an easy path, but it's the path you must take if you want to create a fulfilling, lasting relationship. Contrary to popular belief, “just loving each other” is not enough to make a relationship last forever. It takes two people who are willing to grow, learn, and challenge each other to rise together in partnership. A loving relationship is a path that demands you gain more self-awareness and self-responsibility so that you can attend to the amazing fire of your connection. A great relationship is designed to get you to grow up and grow into yourself, and a strong, loving relationship has the power to help you accomplish and achieve more in your life. Strap Yourself in for the Ride of a Lifetime There is nothing quite like having a lover, a best friend, and a co-pilot on this crazy ride called life. When you learn the tools that make relationships work, you will indeed become a couple that side-steps the pointless fights, gets stronger through conflict, and has more connected sex, as you become an unstoppable couple that lights up a room. The love quotes found in this relationship book are a gold mine. Read slowly and digest each sentence. You can ponder each one alone and together. You might have to discuss, disagree, and work through a quote, just like you would a normal difference in your own lives. Doing so will be considered “practice” for your relationship or marriage (you can even share your wins and challenges in our private community of Smart Couples). You reap what you sow each day in your relationship, and my strong wish is for you to take good care of your precious relationship by attending to it daily. May these quotes help guide you into a more realistic and magnificent love that lasts.

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Getting to Zero: How to Work Through Conflict in Your High-Stakes Relationships

Getting to Zero: How to Work Through Conflict in Your High-Stakes Relationships

The Smart Couple Quote Book: Radically Simple Ways to Avoid Pointless Fights, Have Better Sex, and Build an Indestructible Partnership

The Relationship Journal: A Self-Reflective Path to Deeper, More Fulfilling Relationships