People with Borderline or Narcissistic Personality Disorders have a serious mental illness that primarily affects their intimate, personal, and family relationships. Often they appear to be normally functioning at work and in public interactions, and Narcissists may even be highly effective, in the short term, in some work or social situations. However, in intimate relationships, they can be emotional, aggressive, demeaning, illogical, paranoid, accusing, and controlling—in the extreme. Their ability to function normally or pleasantly can suddenly change in an instant, like flipping a switch. These negative behaviors don’t happen once in a while, they happen almost continuously in their intimate relationships and most often, and especially with their Caretaker family member. Here, Margalis Fjelstad describes how people get into a Caretaker role with a Borderline or Narcissist, and how they can get out. Caretakers give up their sense of self to become who and what the Borderline or Narcissist needs them to be. This compromises the Caretaker’s self-esteem, distorts their thinking processes, and locks them into a Victim-Persecutor-Rescuer pattern with the Borderline or Narcissist. The book looks at the underlying rules and expectations in these relationships and shows Caretaker’s how to move themselves out of these rigid interactions and into a healthier, more productive, and positive lifestyle—with or without the Borderline/Narcissistic partner or family member. It describes how to get out of destructive interactions with the Borderline or Narcissist and how to take new, more effective actions to focus on personal wants, needs, and life goals while allowing the Borderline or Narcissist to take care of themselves. It presents a realistic, yet compassionate, attitude toward the self-destructive nature of these relationships, and gives real life examples of how individuals have let go of their Caretaker behaviors with creative and effective solutions.

Stop Caretaking the Borderline or Narcissist: How to End the Drama and Get On with Life

Health, Fitness & Dieting

Fjelstad, Margalis

Mental Health

Rowman & Littlefield Publishers

People with Borderline or Narcissistic Personality Disorders are master manipulators; Caretakers fall for them every time. This book helps Caretakers break the cycle and puts them on a new path of personal freedom, discovery, and self-awareness, through the use of real stories and practical suggestions from a seasoned therapist.

Healing from a Narcissistic Relationship: A Caretaker's Guide to Recovery, Empowerment, and Transformation

When a relationship with a narcissist ends, the caretaking partner is often left confused, deeply hurt, and often still emotionally connected, while the narcissist seems to easily move on to the next relationship. Healing from a Narcissistic Relationship offers guidance about what to expect as the relationship unravels and how to cope with the fallout. It also helps the reader learn to truly disengage and move through the grief process. Presenting techniques for healing and rebuilding self-esteem and self-confidence, this book offers a guide to developing emotional strength and encourages forgiveness and reconciliation with the past. It shows the reader how to increase emotional self-protections, quit caretaking in relationships, and become more independent and self-loving. Using real stories, Margalis Fjelstad offers a process of healing that can direct the reader away from former patterns of inequitable relationships and toward loving, caring connections that can truly grow healthfully and flourish. It shows that ending a relationship with a narcissist may be the best thing that ever happened.

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People with Borderline or Narcissistic Personality Disorders have a serious mental illness that primarily affects their intimate, personal, and family relationships. Margalis Fjelstad describes how people get into a Caretaker role with a Borderline or Narcissist, and how they can get out.

Stop Caretaking the Borderline or Narcissist: How to End the Drama and Get on with Life

Diseases & Physical Ailments

Audiobooks.com Publishing

Stop Caretaking the Borderline or Narcissist Lib/E: How to End the Drama and Get on with Life

Raising Resilient Children with a Borderline or Narcissistic Parent offers a way to intervene and disrupt the cycle of negative outcomes for children. Written by two family therapists who bring a combined total of sixty years of clinical practice with individuals and families, this book pulls no punches, giving clear-headed advice, easy-to-follow actions to help children, and an abundance of teaching examples. Book jacket.

Raising Resilient Children with a Borderline or Narcissistic Parent

McBride, Jean

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Stop Caretaking the Borderline or Narcissist: How to End the Drama and Get On with Life

Stop Caretaking the Borderline or Narcissist: How to End the Drama and Get On with Life

Healing from a Narcissistic Relationship: A Caretaker's Guide to Recovery, Empowerment, and Transformation

Stop Caretaking the Borderline or Narcissist: How to End the Drama and Get on with Life

Stop Caretaking the Borderline or Narcissist Lib/E: How to End the Drama and Get on with Life

Raising Resilient Children with a Borderline or Narcissistic Parent

Healing from a Narcissistic Relationship: A Caretaker's Guide to Recovery, Empowerment, and Transformation