Emotional Vampires: Dealing With People Who Drain You Dry

Best-selling author Albert J. Bernstein helped thousands of people deal with the dangerously stupid at work in Dinosaur Brains. In Emotional Vampires he goes even further to protect unsuspecting mortals from more devious and harmful creatures vampires ready to bite, suck, and kill the emotional and psychological wellbeing of their victims. Like the fabled demons, these vampires come in many shapes: -The living dead who think their “talents” place them above the laws of nature -Lords of darkness with huge egos and tiny consciences -Scary monsters who use their tempers in the same way terrorists use bombs -Blood-suckers who think others were created for their convenience Emotional Vampires tells readers how to spot a vampire in their lives, which defense strategies to employ to prevent one from striking, and what to do if and when they find themselves under attack.

Emotional Vampires: Dealing with People Who Drain You Dry

Business & Money

Bernstein, Albert J.

Management & Leadership

McGraw=Hill

In his international bestseller, Dinosaur Brains, psychologist Albert J. Bernstein told readers how to deal with difficult people at work. Now, in a groundbreaking new book, Bernstein tackles a more serious problem that profoundly affects the lives of millions of people: walking time bombs. How do you help a friend who explodes into panic attacks? What do you say when a depressed family member bursts into tears? How do you protect yourself when a stranger blows up in your face? Too often, our choices make matters worse. But it isn't our fault. All that we feel, and much of what we hear directs us to defend the fearful, comfort the sad, and talk sense to the angry, regardless of the utter futility of these well-meaning actions. Moment to moment, people with mental disorders stand at the crossroads between getting better and getting worse. For disorders to heal, medicine, psychotherapy, the encouragement of friends, and the kindness of strangers must all point explosive people toward a single direction. <ul>
<li>People with anxiety disorders must turn and face their fear rather than running away </li>
<li>Depressed people cannot wait to feel better to do the things that will make them feel better </li>
<li>Angry people have to recognize that anger is something they do, not a reaction to what is done to them </li>
</ul>
Reaching these goals sometimes requires stunning feats of mind over matter. In How to Deal with Emotionally Explosive People, Dr. Bernstein demonstrates, step by step, how to do them.

How to Deal with Emotionally Explosive People

Job Hunting & Careers

". . . the most comprehensive guide I have ever read for solving any conceivable trying scenario!" --Julie Jansen, bestselling author of You Want Me to Work with Who? and I Don't Know What I Want, but I Know It's Not This 
 You can't stop office madness, but you can stop the madness from getting to you. 
Gossipy coworkers, unmanageable managers, and cranky clients have got you pulling your hair out and gnawing your nails down to nubs. From teammates who drop the ball on deadlines to corporate bullies who try to run your show, your work environment can be lethal to your health and your career. 
Change Your Reaction, Not Their Actions When things get crazy, you may not be able to control how others behave, but you can change how you respond. Al Bernstein shows you how understand the situation, how to keep the craziness from bothering you, how to keep things from getting worse, and how you can make them better. 
Problems/solutions discussed inside:
<ul>
<li>Coworkers who don't like you? Feed them! </li>
<li>Hidden agendas? Unleash the power of “cc:” mail! </li>
<li>Unpleasant supervisors? Tell them only what they want to hear! </li>
<li>Office gossip? Dish out positive gossip about other people! </li>
<li>Lying coworkers? Buy into their lies and watch what happens! </li>
<li>And ninety-five more!</li>
</ul>

Am I The Only Sane One Working Here?: 101 Solutions for Surviving Office Insanity

Business Culture

Protect yourself from people who take undue advantage and suck the energy out of your life Emotional Vampires will help you cope effectively with the people in your life that confound you, confuse you, and seem to sap every ounce of your energy. Bestselling author Dr. Al Bernstein shows you how to recognize each vampire type--antisocial, histrionic, narcissists, obsessive-compulsives, paranoids--and deal with them effectively. He uses many examples from the latest news headlines, which will help you distinguish between the types and deepen your understanding of each one. In response to the daily calls and emails he got about the previous edition of this book, Dr. Al Bernstein has added his advice for dealing with those emotional vampires who come in the shape of spouses and lovers, relatives, and children. Dr. Bernstein shows you how to deal with each vampire type and what you need to do to keep from getting drained.

Emotional Vampires: Dealing with People Who Drain You Dry, Revised and Expanded 2nd Edition

Parenting & Relationships

Dinosaur Brains: Dealing With All Those Impossible People at Work

Dinosaur Brains: Dealing with All Those Impossible People at Work

Discover how to cope with instinct, emotion, and irrationality--the dinosaur brain--that disrupts any business enivronment, with a step-by-step process that helps you reason your way through turf wars and power struggles, surly subordinates, temperamental bosses, and more...."The key to thriving in the corporate jungle is understanding dinosaurs."TIMEFrom the Paperback edition.

Rozen, Sydney Craft

Ballantine Books

Neanderthals at Work

Do you spend half your time and energy dealing with politics and game playing? Are you forced to work in an uncivilized atmosphere, created and controlled by tiny brains, narrow minds, and brutish attitudes?Suffer in silence no more. Now, from the authors of the bestselling DINOSAUR BRAINS, here is a witty, informative, and devilishly perceptive look at the club-wielding, cave-dwelling boneheads who can make life in the office so miserable. With the plain-speaking, success-oriented advice of NEANDERTHALS AT WORK, you can rise above primitive behavior and take the evolutionary leap into an enlightened and more productive workplace. Once you learn to undo the first rule of Neanderthal thinking -- Us vs. Them -- you'll quickly identify these stone-age throwbacks and begin to deal with them effectively:Competitors -- to them, if you're not a Winner, you're a Loser.Rebels -- creative innovators, they always avoid the three Ps: paperwork, politics, and people.Believers -- they work hard, follow the rules, and never get promoted.Whether your goal is getting ahead or just coexisting peacefully, this book is a must-read for anyone who wants to survive and thrive in the ultra-competitive workplace of the 1990s."The only way to get ahead is to figure out the hidden rules that determine how your organization really works. And to do that, a good place to start is with NEANDERTHALS AT WORK."-- Associated Press

Suffer in silence no more. Now, from the authors of the bestselling Dinosaur Brains, here is a witty, informative, and devilishly. perceptive look at the club-wielding, cave-dwelling boneheads who can make life in the office so miserable. With the plainspeaking, success-oriented advice of Neanderthals at Work, you can rise above primitive behavior and take the evolutionary leap into an enlightened and more productive workplace. Once you learn to undo the first rule of Neanderthal thinking -- Us vs. Them -- you'll quickly identify these stone-age throwbacks and begin to deal with them effectively: Competitors -- To them, if you're not a Winner you're a Loser. Rebels -- Creative innovators, they always avoid the three Ps: paperwork, politics, and people problems. Believers -- They work hard, follow the rules, and never get promoted. Whether your goal is getting ahead or just coexisting peacefully, this book is a must-read for anyone who wants to survive and thrive in the ultra-competitive workplace of the 1990s.

Filled with psychological insights and practical advice, it examines the more subtle traps that make an office seem like a battlefield. Shows how to understand and accept that many of the crazy-making things which happen at work come from the misunderstandings between three warring personality types: rebels (corporate mavericks), believers (corporate innocents) and competitors (corporate warriors). Demonstrates the importance of cooperation and understanding.

Neanderthals at Work: How People and Politics Can Drive You Crazy...And What You Can Do About Them

wiley

There's a little bull in all of us . . . 
Sacred Bull shows how to recognize your own self-imposed "bull" and, most importantly, how to do something about it. Dr. Albert J. Bernstein and Sydney Craft Rozen's new book is a witty, perceptive, and effective guide to personal change in your work setting. "Tried but can't break the bonds of self-limiting career behavior? With this breakthrough advice, you'll find that change has wings."—Joyce Lain Kennedy Careers Columnist Los Angeles Times Syndicate "After thirty-five years in the world of business, this book made me recognize some of my own imperfections. No: Let's call them what they are: Sacred Bulls."—Roger Axtell Author of Do's and Taboos Around the World A Main Selection of the Newbridge Executive Program Did you ever notice how people at work "spin-doctor" themselves into believing things they wish were true but just aren't?—The perfectionist who micromanages everything. She never seems to make a mistake . . . unless you count the important market trends she always seems to miss. The complainer who always knows where to fix the blame but never how to fix the problem. The perpetually "nice" person. He thinks he avoids conflict by telling people what they want to hear. Too bad that avoiding a little conflict today paves the way for "the mother of all battles" tomorrow. It's easy to spot these problems in other people, but not in yourself. Are you letting your own bull mess up your job, your relationships with coworkers, and your opportunity for advancement? Sacred Bull is a perceptive and highly useful book that enables you to sort out fact from fiction about your behavior on the job. It covers ten sacred bulls that may be standing in your way unrecognized as problems (perhaps they even masquerade as virtues). <ul>
<li>DENIAL: If I ignore my problems, they'll go away.</li> <li>BLIND SPOTS AND SHORTCUTS: What I don't like can't be important.</li> <li>SELF-INTEREST: Always look out for Number One.</li> <li>MIND-READING: People should know what I want without my telling them.</li> <li>BLAME: If something goes wrong, it has to be somebody's fault.</li> <li>BE NICE: Avoid conflict at all cost.</li> <li>PERFECTION: If it's not perfect, it's nothing.</li> <li>FAIRNESS: I don't need to negotiate for what I want; I should get what's coming to me without asking.</li> <li>EXCUSES: There's always a good reason why I don't follow the rules everyone else works by.</li> <li>BEING RIGHT ALL THE TIME: There's a right way and a wrong way—my way is right.</li> </ul>
If the road to ruin is paved with good intentions, these Sacred Bulls hold the paving contract. Sacred Bull, in its witty and perceptive commentary—enables all of us to take a useful and refreshing look at ourselves. Reading this book is an investment that will pay you many dividends.

Sacred Bull: The Inner Obstacles That Hold You Back at Work and How to Overcome Them

This book will help you deal with your employees and co-workers by giving you the keys to understanding the way their brains--and yours--work. Using the metaphor of the dinosaur brain, the authors detail a whole range of human responses dictated by a part of the human brain sometimes beyond our control. They then show you what to expect from that part of the brain and how to be prepared for it, including such problems as turf battles, reflexive competitiveness, and office courtship. Outlines the rules of ^lizard logic, and how to use them to your advantage.

John Wiley&Sons, Inc.

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Emotional Vampires: Dealing with People Who Drain You Dry

How to Deal with Emotionally Explosive People

Am I The Only Sane One Working Here?: 101 Solutions for Surviving Office Insanity

Emotional Vampires: Dealing with People Who Drain You Dry, Revised and Expanded 2nd Edition

Dinosaur Brains: Dealing with All Those Impossible People at Work

Neanderthals at Work

Neanderthals at Work

Neanderthals at Work: How People and Politics Can Drive You Crazy...And What You Can Do About Them

Sacred Bull: The Inner Obstacles That Hold You Back at Work and How to Overcome Them

Dinosaur Brains: Dealing With All Those Impossible People at Work