The Monogamy Gap: Men, Love, and the Reality of Cheating (Sexuality, Identity, and Society)

Whether straight or gay, most men start their relationships desiring monogamy. This is rooted in the pervasive notion that monogamy exists as a sign of true love. Yet despite this deeply held cultural ideal, cheating remains rampant. In this accessible book, Eric Anderson investigates why 78% of men he interviewed have cheated despite their desire not to. Combining 120 interviews with research from the fields of sociology, biology, and psychology, Anderson identifies cheating as a product of wanting emotional passion for one's partner, along with a steadily growing desire for emotionally-detached recreational sex with others. Anderson coins the term "the monogamy gap" to describe this phenomenon. Anderson suggests that monogamy is an irrational ideal because it fails to fulfil a lifetime of sexual desires. Cheating therefore becomes the rational response to an irrational situation. The Monogamy Gap draws on a range of concepts, theories, and disciplines to highlight the biological compulsion of our sexual urges, the social construction of the monogamous ideal, and the devastating chasm that lies between them. Whether single or married, monogamous or open, straight or gay, readers will find The Monogamy Gap to be an enlightening, intellectually compelling, and provocative book.

Health, Fitness & Dieting

Anderson, Eric

Psychology & Counseling

Oxford University Press

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<li>What impact does sport have on the lives of ordinary people?</li> <li>How does sport help to perpetuate inequalities in society?</li> <li>What can social theory tell us about the role of sport in society? </li>
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At their origin competitive sports were institutionalized in Western cultures for the privilege of white, heterosexual men. Over time sport has become more open to categories of people traditionally marginalized in society: women; those from lower social classes; gay men; people of colour; and those differently abled. However, focusing solely on increased social inclusion in sport masks significant problems with both the culture and structure of sport. This critical textbook examines social exclusion in sport and analyzes the socio-negative attributes associated with competitive, institutionalized sport, for all who play. Focusing on sport at non-elite levels, this book explores the lives of everyday citizens who play and examines how inequality and social deviance are structured into the social and sporting system. Each chapter uses a key social theory to address a particular social problem in sport, such as learned obedience to authority; the acceptance of pain and injury; the adoption of hyper-masculine, homophobic and sexist attitudes; the teaching of in-group/out-group; and the use of sport as a false mechanism for social mobility. By concentrating on real sport, and through the use of startling vignettes illustrating the experiences of real people, this textbook develops the critical senses, social conscience and theoretical understanding of all students of sport and anybody for whom sport is part of their everyday life.

Sport, Theory and Social Problems: A Critical Introduction

Politics & Social Sciences

WHITE, Adam

Social Sciences

Routledge

Inclusive Masculinity: The Changing Nature of Masculinities (Routledge Research in Gender and Society)

Drawing on qualitative studies of teamsport athletes and fraternity members, this book describes the rapidly changing world of masculinities among men in both the United States and Great Britain. As cultural homophobia decreases, university-aged men are influenced to construct a softer version of masculinity – one that is not predicated in homophobia. Inclusive Masculinity shows that today's youth express decreased sexism, racism and masculine bullying. As Eric Anderson demonstrates, men who value inclusive masculinities are also shown to be more likely to bond in emotional relationships with other men and to embrace a variety of behaviors once coded as feminine, including certain same-sex sexual behaviors. Now available in paperback, this groundbreaking analysis of masculinity and young men will be of interest to students and faculty members within Sociology, Gender Studies, and Sport Studies.

Sports & Outdoors

Patients bring many bits and pieces to their doctors' visits. Health issues. Things they've noticed. Worries about specific symptoms. Concerns that need reassurance. They also bring their personal stories though in the present high-tech assessment of patients' health, these are easily missed, and we are all the less for that loss today.Yesterday's doctors had the time to visit with their patients. We took delight in hearing what had been special in our patients' lives. We learned about the particular events that made some patients so different from any others, made them what they are. Some intrigued us. Some charmed us. Some amused us. Some worried us. And some scared the pants off us. None bored us.Such personal knowledge of our patients helped to make us see them as individuals. Indeed, patients might be surprised to find how much we recall of those times they came to see us. This book, a collection of stories from patients' lives, may show we remember them fondly.

The Man Who Cried Orange: Stories from a Doctor's Life

Biographies & Memoirs

Professionals & Academics

iUniverse

Trailblazing: The True Story of America's First Openly Gay Track Coach

At only 25 years of age, Eric Anderson was near the top of his sport, coaching the cadre of distance runners at Huntington Beach High School in conservative Orange County, Calif. Victory on the track gained Anderson high respect as a coach, but he was hiding the truth from his colleagues and his team: He was gay. Then he came out. His team was quickly labeled "the fag team," and the respect Anderson had worked for gave way to homophobia: His runners were taunted, threatened,and even physically assaulted. Yet through it all, they continued to run, to win, and to support their coach. As Anderson battled to keep his team running and to keep his job his athletes stuck by him,fighting for a cause that made them trailblazers as well. TRAILBLAZING, the inspiring story of a coach and his squad working together against incredible obstacles, will leave you cheering.

Turtleback Books Distributed by Demco Media

Chapter OneThe BeginningAlthough some names have been changed, the following events are real.In January 1993 the Huntington Beach High School boys' track team, which I coached, organized a community track meet as a fund-raiser. We ended up having more workers than competitors, and rain was nearly the sole occupant of the bleachers lining our ancient brick-dust track. Of the few athletes who showed to compete, one runner caught my eye. His rail-thin body reminded me of a Kenyan runner's; he looked like a champion. He appeared old enough to be in high school, but I didn't recognize him and figured him to be a junior-high runner. Always on the lookout for future athletes, I wanted to find out more. But rules governing our sport prohibited me from speaking to potential athletes until they had graduated from the eighth grade. To circumvent this, I asked one of my runners, Erich Phinizy, to investigate. "Find out his age and where he goes to school," I said. "And tell him about our program."Erich returned with valuable information. The runner was in junior high and would be attending Huntington Beach next year. He also informed me that our future runner was of English descent. Erich pointed to the only two people sitting in the bleachers and said, "Those are his parents."Damn, not England, I thought. They're a bunch of soccer freaks. I hoped he wouldn't be like a former English runner of mine, who once remarked, "What's the purpose of running if there's no ball to kick along the way?"Although the soccer coach and I were close friends, we often competed for the same athletes, as soccer players are often runners and vice versa. Each of us ran a quality program, coaching our athletes year-round."So, Erich, what's his name?""Oh, I didn't get that, Coach. Sorry.""Don't worry about it."The possibility of this kid's running for our team excited me, especially since he had come to race the three-mile, an unusually long distance for a 13-year-old. I scanned the entry list and saw, unfortunately, that there were only two other runners in his race. One was a 60-year-old jogger, and the other was Erich. Eager to assess the kid's talent, I asked Erich to pace him. "Run alo

Demco Media

Examines the relationship between gay male athletes, sport, and American masculinity. Using interviews with openly gay and closeted team-sport athletes, Eric Anderson examines how homophobia is reproduced in sport, how gay male athletes navigate this, and how American masculinity is changing. By detailing individual experiences, Anderson shows how these athletes are emerging from their athletic closets and contesting the dominant norms of masculinity. From the locker rooms of high school sports, where the atmosphere of “don’t ask, don’t tell” often exists, to the unique circumstances that gay athletes encounter in professional team sports, this book analyzes the agency that openly gay athletes possess to change their environments.

In The Game: Gay Athletes And The Cult Of Masculinity (S U N Y Series on Sport, Culture, and Social Relations)

State University of New York Press

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The Monogamy Gap: Men, Love, and the Reality of Cheating (Sexuality, Identity, and Society)

The Monogamy Gap: Men, Love, and the Reality of Cheating (Sexuality, Identity, and Society)

Sport, Theory and Social Problems: A Critical Introduction

Sport, Theory and Social Problems: A Critical Introduction

Inclusive Masculinity: The Changing Nature of Masculinities (Routledge Research in Gender and Society)

Inclusive Masculinity: The Changing Nature of Masculinities (Routledge Research in Gender and Society)

The Man Who Cried Orange: Stories from a Doctor's Life

Trailblazing: The True Story of America's First Openly Gay Track Coach

Trailblazing: The True Story of America's First Openly Gay Track Coach

In The Game: Gay Athletes And The Cult Of Masculinity (S U N Y Series on Sport, Culture, and Social Relations)