This is a book for women who are looking to improve their dating experience. More effective dating happens by accepting, versus ignoring, our evolutionary design. Understanding our brain wiring and body reaction differences with men explains a lot. Ever wonder why you get so attached to a man, yet he can remain so casual about your relationship? Or why break-ups are so very hard to get over? This breakthrough book helps you understand exactly how a man's mind (and body) works when it comes to intimacy, and the reasons why dealing with a man can sometimes be so exasperating or emotionally painful. Knowing them helps you realize he may not be doing it you deliberately, and what genetic mechanisms give you more power than you’ve ever had before in building a strong, loving intimate relationship. For example, scientific research finds that evolution designed you to become biochemically addicted -- to his smell. Biology also drives men sexually, but their main "addiction" is to seek multiple mating partners. Evolution also wisely provides that if a certain hormone gets produced in his brain, he'll become just as bonded as you are. There are rules for a successful relationship. Women feel that guys evade them. Guys feel that women invade them. To have a satisfying love life, or a fulfilling dating experience, know how to play by the rules, and play to win! Dr. Pat Allen, Ph.D, MFT, has helped women, men and couples do this for over 30 years; and her workshops have helped tens of thousands of relationships to succeed. After a lifetime studying the SCIENCE of relationships, the energies that drive men and women, and how those energies can be balanced in harmony, you now have access to her latest discoveries. This research refutes many of today's pop theories about relationships, and dismantles basic assumptions of the feminist movement. It’s not the first time Dr. Pat Allen offered such contrarian advice. In her bestseller, "Getting to 'I Do'," she described how women can achieve satisfying marital relationships. In this new book, she describes the genetics of what MEN do in their quest for sex (and love), and how women consciously and unconsciously react to these actions. It's time for women to have their consciousness raised about male sexual behaviors, based on scientific research into human mating practices. When you know the evolutionary sources of such behavior, you are empowered to claim the high ground, adopt effective counter-behaviors, and rise above any victim mentality. Knowing the truth about men and their sexual responses will free you to implement new, scientifically proven mating strategies that will increase your chances for developing a loving relationship. Creating solid and lasting relationships means accepting each other's differences instead of denying them. After you've learned the Truth About Men, you'll finally have the information you need to venture forth, make informed choices -- and embrace true Feminine Empowerment.

The Truth About Men Will Set You Free: The New Science of Love and Dating

Allen, Dr. Pat

Schmincke, Don

Parenting & Relationships

WANT Institute

"Behave how I want, or I’ll withhold my love from you...my money...my approval. Forever!" Harsh words, maybe less blunt but always with the same intent: demonstrate the upper hand over us, put on the squeeze. Or maybe: "I'm in such pain because you will (or won't) do it." Guilt heaped up, to bend us to an intimidator's will. We live in a toxic environment. Polluted air, contaminated water, additives and adulterations and frankenfood. But most damaging are toxic conversational broadsides against us. People jockey for advantage, put us down, play the shame and guilt cards, intimidate us with fear of being assaulted or abandoned. Words are the most powerful tools the human species has created. They inspire and comfort, influence us positively. Or attack and destroy, take people down, wage economic warfare and corrupt political theater. * Taunts remembered from a playground can cost you success in business today. * Parental upbraiding may now bankrupt your ability to relate, nourish those you love. * Snarky jabs from friends may lead you to undervalue yourself, discount your dreams, leave you a pincushion attracting pains, false beliefs and negative emotions. Verbal aggression, these de-humanizing experience evoke the same psychological consequences as physical assault, a rape…one executed with that most effectively invasive and potentially sadistic part of the human body: the tongue. A conversational rape. We are conversationally raped everyday: by commercial messages and politically correct indoctrination, by authorities who want to keep you in your place -- out of their way. And like any rape victim, we carry psychological scars. Dr. Pat Allen has healed wounds for over 38 years as an MFT. She knows firsthand the damage caused by ploys of intimidation and induced guilt. And knows how to heal those wounds. The tool she uses to help you is, ironically, words. "Beware your words, for they become habits....your character....your destiny…at the bank, the doctor’s office, in every enterprise in your life and every one of your relationships." You won’t be the same after reading this book. You will no longer be an unwitting victim of subconscious conditioning and lifescripting. Change words you speak to change the way you think, Dr. Allen’s groundbreaking training will help you use words with new potency, heal psychological wounds of conversational rapes, and negotiate authentically for all you want in life....and get it. Androgenous Semantic Realignment™ builds on Freudian/Jüngian principles of psychotherapy, Eric Berne’s Transactional Analysis and Fritz Perls’ Gestalt Therapy, focusing on pathologies which cripple our self-image and ability to relate. WANT® Training, based on ASR and grounded in neocortical science, lets you feel good about yourself and win without sabotaging yourself by threatening or demeaning others, or other “gamesmanship.” It will revitalize what you even think is possible. Making minor tweaks in your speech patterns will actually renew your thought patterns. We think in words, and changing how we think and speak automatically changes how we act. Once you accept that many conversations you have had throughout your life have been subtly, inexorably driving you insane, you can set out to use words in a new way. You can use words to drive yourself, and the people around you, sane. Rape is a traumatic experience. Your mind and body wants to heal itself. No matter what has happened in the past, you are not doomed by experiences, and not hardwired to fail. You can upgrade your mental "hardware" to foster new amazing experiences, create new neural connections to take advantage of opportunities that may have seemed inaccessible in the past. And you will now have the tools to let go of negative beliefs and subconscious stumbling blocks and embrace positive attitude and energies. And knowledge to renew aspects of any area of your life. Foreword by Jim Hallowes, founder-HighlySensitivePeople.com

Conversational Rape: Emotional Language, Conditional Love and Invasive Communication Patterns

Dr. Pat Allen, PhD, is a licensed marriage, family and child therapist as well as a certified addiction specialist (Harvard Medical School.) She's devoted over 38 years to studying and sharing wisdom developed from years of counseling couples and individuals. Countless people have been inspired by her teachings and have learned how to express their wants and needs with integrity and honesty while avoiding the damaging ploys of intimidation and seduction. With her trademark wit and humor, Dr. Allen has led workshops, retreats and conducted thousands of her special Hollywood Monday night evenings, a unique presentation of stand up improv therapy. She's also the author of the best selling single girl's bible, "Getting to I Do." TV and talk shows (Oprah, The Millionaire Matchmaker) have called upon Dr. Allen for her insight and answers to life's toughest questions, and some of the world's top celebrities can be found in private sessions looking for and getting great advice on how to live and love better. Now it's your turn to enjoy Dr. Allen's unique advice and wit!

The Answers Book from Dr. Pat Allen

Self-Help

Schroeder, Barbara

Personal Transformation

CreateSpace Independent Publishing Platform

"A Live of Love" is a guide book on how to create Male/Female relationships that work. It is based on the first universal law of attraction--polarity. It applies the principles of Yin and Yang energy by describing the differences between men and women and how to communicate with either. It teaches simple language tools to help you communicate your "Want's and Don't Want's" providing a framework for deep intimacy and long lasting love.

A Life of Love: How to Create Relationships You Want

Hanrahan, James Allen

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The Truth About Men Will Set You Free: The New Science of Love and Dating

Conversational Rape: Emotional Language, Conditional Love and Invasive Communication Patterns

The Answers Book from Dr. Pat Allen

A Life of Love: How to Create Relationships You Want